Fibromyalgia Haven » empathy http://www.fibrohaven.com Learning to Balance Chronic Health with a Chronic Love of Life Wed, 28 Jul 2010 22:58:51 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 The Anthem of My Marriage http://www.fibrohaven.com/2009/07/03/the-anthem-of-my-marriage/ http://www.fibrohaven.com/2009/07/03/the-anthem-of-my-marriage/#comments Sat, 04 Jul 2009 06:05:04 +0000 FibroHaven http://fibrohaven.wordpress.com/?p=1284 I enjoy Rob Thomas’ music. His soulful voice and song writing appeal to me. With the release of his new solo album Cradlesong, fans of Rob are getting a rare and intimate look into rob_thomashis personal life. The first single, Her Diamonds, was inspired by Thomas’ wife, Marisol, who in recent years has struggled with an autoimmune disease. Her battle isn’t specifically addressed, but when interviewed about the song, Rob said “it’s about how something like that makes you feel empathy. I like to write about universal emotions. Everything has a base emotion; it’s just what triggers it that’s different for everyone.”

I listened to the song for the first time with tears in my eyes. It is a beautiful anthem of love – enduring love between spouses who live daily with the trials and uncertainty of chronic illness. Chronic illness is not just hard on the patient, it is hard on everyone who loves them and has to watch them suffer. This song made me want to shelter and protect my husband from all the heartache my illness has caused him. Just as Rob sings in Her Diamonds, if I feel bad my husband does too.

Not a day goes by that I don’t think about how blessed I am to have a husband who loves me, protects me, supports me, honors me, and still thinks I am fabulous even on the days when washing my hair would be as difficult as climbing Mt. Everest. But when he is hurting, do I always remember to do the same for him? Probably not.

Her Diamonds touched my heart and gave me perspective. I just had to share it with you all. This post is in honor of my husband and all that he gives of himself. He deserves so much more than this dedication. He is my rockstar!


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Lyrics to Her Diamonds

Oh what the hell she says
I just can’t win for losing
And she lays back down
Man there’s so many times
I don’t know what I’m doin’
Like I don’t know now

By the light of the moon
She rubs her eyes
Says it’s funny how the night
Can make you blind
I can just imagine
And I don’t know what I’m supposed to do
But if she feels bad then I do too
So I let her be

And she says oooh
I can’t take no more
Her tears like diamonds on the floor
And her diamonds bring me down
Cuz I can’t help her now
She’s down in it
She tried her best and now she can’t win it’s
Hard to see them on the ground
Her diamonds falling down

She sits down and stares into the distance
And it takes all night
And I know I could break her concentration
But it don’t feel right

By the light of the moon
She rubs her eyes
Sits down on the bed and starts to cry
And there’s something less about her
And I don’t know what I’m supposed to do
So I sit down and I cry too
And don’t let her see

And she says oooh
I can’t take no more
Her tears like diamonds on the floor
And her diamonds bring me down
Cuz I can’t help her now
She’s down in it
She tried her best and now she can’t win it’s
Hard to see them on the ground
Her diamonds falling down

She shuts out the night
Tries to close her eyes
If she can find daylight
She’ll be all right
She’ll be all right
Just not tonight

And she says oooh
I can’t take no more
Her tears like diamonds on the floor
And her diamonds bring me down
Cuz I can’t help her now
She’s down in it
She tried her best and now she can’t win it’s
Hard to see them on the ground
Her diamonds falling down

Thank you Michelle at Life in the Autoimmune Lane for sharing this song first on your blog and introducing me to the anthem of my marriage!

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