The Anthem of My Marriage
I enjoy Rob Thomas’ music. His soulful voice and song writing appeal to me. With the release of his new solo album Cradlesong, fans of Rob are getting a rare and intimate look into 
his personal life. The first single, Her Diamonds, was inspired by Thomas’ wife, Marisol, who in recent years has struggled with an autoimmune disease. Her battle isn’t specifically addressed, but when interviewed about the song, Rob said “it’s about how something like that makes you feel empathy. I like to write about universal emotions. Everything has a base emotion; it’s just what triggers it that’s different for everyone.”
I listened to the song for the first time with tears in my eyes. It is a beautiful anthem of love – enduring love between spouses who live daily with the trials and uncertainty of chronic illness. Chronic illness is not just hard on the patient, it is hard on everyone who loves them and has to watch them suffer. This song made me want to shelter and protect my husband from all the heartache my illness has caused him. Just as Rob sings in Her Diamonds, if I feel bad my husband does too.
Not a day goes by that I don’t think about how blessed I am to have a husband who loves me, protects me, supports me, honors me, and still thinks I am fabulous even on the days when washing my hair would be as difficult as climbing Mt. Everest. But when he is hurting, do I always remember to do the same for him? Probably not.
Her Diamonds touched my heart and gave me perspective. I just had to share it with you all. This post is in honor of my husband and all that he gives of himself. He deserves so much more than this dedication. He is my rockstar!
Lyrics to Her Diamonds
Oh what the hell she says
I just can’t win for losing
And she lays back down
Man there’s so many times
I don’t know what I’m doin’
Like I don’t know now
By the light of the moon
She rubs her eyes
Says it’s funny how the night
Can make you blind
I can just imagine
And I don’t know what I’m supposed to do
But if she feels bad then I do too
So I let her be
And she says oooh
I can’t take no more
Her tears like diamonds on the floor
And her diamonds bring me down
Cuz I can’t help her now
She’s down in it
She tried her best and now she can’t win it’s
Hard to see them on the ground
Her diamonds falling down
She sits down and stares into the distance
And it takes all night
And I know I could break her concentration
But it don’t feel right
By the light of the moon
She rubs her eyes
Sits down on the bed and starts to cry
And there’s something less about her
And I don’t know what I’m supposed to do
So I sit down and I cry too
And don’t let her see
And she says oooh
I can’t take no more
Her tears like diamonds on the floor
And her diamonds bring me down
Cuz I can’t help her now
She’s down in it
She tried her best and now she can’t win it’s
Hard to see them on the ground
Her diamonds falling down
She shuts out the night
Tries to close her eyes
If she can find daylight
She’ll be all right
She’ll be all right
Just not tonight
And she says oooh
I can’t take no more
Her tears like diamonds on the floor
And her diamonds bring me down
Cuz I can’t help her now
She’s down in it
She tried her best and now she can’t win it’s
Hard to see them on the ground
Her diamonds falling down
Thank you Michelle at Life in the Autoimmune Lane for sharing this song first on your blog and introducing me to the anthem of my marriage!
Not much of a fan, but what a beautiful song. Thanks for posting this
Wow, what a great song! Thanks for sharing it. It especially hits home since me and my boyfriend are trying to deal with my latest flare-up…not easy.
Jenn
I also was very moved by the song, after finding out what it was about. Have you seen the video they are playing on MTV and VH1? The visual they use for her “pain” (at least that is my take on it) speaks volumes.
I didn’t get sick until almost 10 yrs after I met my husband. The changes in our life since then have been huge. I know it hurts him when I am in pain and that is something that is constantly on my mind, to the point that I often hide how I am feeling.
Thank you for a wonderful blog that pretty much sums up how I feel too!
thanks for posting this I too can relate with RA and Fibrom it does change a relationship. Thanks for the link!
Debbie Coller
Hi Babe
You ARE FABULOUS! And I’m your biggest fan! Don’t forget it! I would do anything to take your pain away, I love and cherish you because you are worth it.
That song really hits home — almost like he wrote it for us.
- Rob
Oh, my gosh! Kira and I just watched the music video for Her Diamonds. I have lupus and that is just how I feel in the morning. I so very much relate to it! Now, I just have to figure out how to download it to my “Touch”.
Thank you, so much for this song! I’m totally in love with my girlfriend-and yes, she has fibro. I’m trying to find out as much as I can about this condition. I want to do my best to love and support her in anyway I can
What a lovely gift this young has made to all of us & bless you for blogging & sharing it with us. I was deeply moved & intend to show it on my blog. Hope you’re doing well
) Cinda
I was touched by this posting. I am a stay at home mom for 2 beautiful children. I have a wonderful husband who I adore… BUT I also have Fibro and the only people I know with Fibro are very negative people. I don’t talk about much, I just smile and push though, so it’s easy for my husband to forget that I do not just have the normal day to day trials of being a Mom of 2 under 3.
I love this song.. and just found out a few months ago that it was related to Fibro. Now that I know there is someone else that is dealing in a possitive light
.. my spirits are lifted.
i am so glad this was shared with me by my bestfriend Janet, AS I scrolled down and read many of the comments, it made me miss my husband even more, he was the only one who understood my Fibro, and was constantly taking care of me, even though he himself had terrible, horrible back injuries that took his life. I dedicate this to my Husband in Heaven for all the love and support….you ladies are very blessed to have those wonderful men in your lives,,God Bless you all,,Husbands, fiance’, boyfriends,,,I pray you know just by being by their side is the best. Hang in there and never give up. your true soilders, Hero’s. God Bless.
It says a lot about the song if you can appreciate it while not being a fan of the musician. I think it helps our appreciation to know his empathy for his ill wife was his muse. Thanks for commenting Jasmine.
Jenn, I hope your latest flare is short lasting. It is so frustrating! I am glad you have a boyfriend who tries to help you though. That is a blessing! My best to you.
I have not seen the video yet Kellie, but look forward to it. Thanks again for alerting me to Michelle’s post and introducing me to this song!
It is sometimes easy to forget the toll our pain and our dramatically different lifestyles take on our significant others. It takes a lot of love to see someone through our kind of suffering. I am happy you are loved like that!
You are most welcome my friend!
You are welcome Debbie. Thanks for taking the time to comment and I am very glad you appreciated this post. Hope you are well today.
Do you see everyone? I told you my hubby is a rockstar!
Thanks Babe! You don’t know how much your love and support keeps me going. What would I do without you?
I am glad he wrote this song as a voice for you and others. You never complain or make me feel bad, but I know it wears on you.
I love and cherish you too Babe, even on the days when I am too miserable to express it. Thanks for being my rockstar.
Thanks for sharing Kari. It really is a powerful video. I can’t get the link to the video to work on here, so I had to settle for the Ellen Show live version from You Tube. Guess we are both tech challenged!
Drew I am touched by your desire to be so loving and supportive to your girlfriend. It will make a huge difference in her life to have a champion like you by her side. Please let me know if I can help. My best to you both!